Comments for Clarisse Thorn http://clarissethorn.com/blog Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded Feminism Tue, 21 Feb 2012 10:16:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Orgasms Aren’t My Favorite Part Of Sex, and My Chastity Urge by Recommended Reading 2/20/12 | Clitorally Speaking http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2012/02/02/orgasms-arent-my-favorite-part-of-sex-and-my-chastity-urge/#comment-106393 Recommended Reading 2/20/12 | Clitorally Speaking Tue, 21 Feb 2012 10:16:39 +0000 http://clarissethorn.com/blog/?p=2640#comment-106393 [...] Thorn: A Unified Theory of Orgasm, Orgasms Aren’t My Favorite Part of Sex, & The Myth Of The Sex-Crazy Nympho Dream [...] [...] Thorn: A Unified Theory of Orgasm, Orgasms Aren’t My Favorite Part of Sex, & The Myth Of The Sex-Crazy Nympho Dream [...]

]]> Comment on [storytime] A Unified Theory of Orgasm by Recommended Reading 2/20/12 | Clitorally Speaking http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2011/10/31/a-unified-theory-of-orgasm/#comment-106379 Recommended Reading 2/20/12 | Clitorally Speaking Tue, 21 Feb 2012 08:25:11 +0000 http://clarissethorn.com/blog/?p=2305#comment-106379 [...] Thorn: A Unified Theory of Orgasm, Orgasms Aren’t My Favorite Part of Sex, & The Myth Of The Sex-Crazy Nympho Dream [...] [...] Thorn: A Unified Theory of Orgasm, Orgasms Aren’t My Favorite Part of Sex, & The Myth Of The Sex-Crazy Nympho Dream [...]

]]> Comment on [storytime] The Tale of My Broken Neck by Julian Morrison http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2012/02/18/storytime-the-tale-of-my-broken-neck/#comment-106196 Julian Morrison Mon, 20 Feb 2012 10:52:18 +0000 http://clarissethorn.com/blog/?p=2695#comment-106196 I'm glad you're doing well. And also, even the surgery, don't think of that as "really permanent" just "until we get good enough with stem cells" which may be less time than you'd think. In the meantime, I guess it just counts as kind of internal posture collar? Anyhow, please continue to be awesome :-P I’m glad you’re doing well. And also, even the surgery, don’t think of that as “really permanent” just “until we get good enough with stem cells” which may be less time than you’d think. In the meantime, I guess it just counts as kind of internal posture collar? Anyhow, please continue to be awesome :-P

]]> Comment on [storytime] The Tale of My Broken Neck by ValterV http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2012/02/18/storytime-the-tale-of-my-broken-neck/#comment-106099 ValterV Sun, 19 Feb 2012 22:35:36 +0000 http://clarissethorn.com/blog/?p=2695#comment-106099 Hi, Clarisse. Thank you for this account of your accident. Clever people can get something good out of even the worst things. I agree with #8CharlieGoodnight: you do deserve your friends and family. Not necessarily because of what you do (or did), but because of what you are. The MRA stuff is both sad and funny. I can't see why they do that. I had thought there would be Christian people telling you that you deserved your accident because of your "immoral lifestyle" ;-) and BS like that. Best wishes for your life and your neck. Hey, your neck has to support such an important payload! :-D Hi, Clarisse.
Thank you for this account of your accident. Clever people can get something good out of even the worst things.

I agree with #8CharlieGoodnight: you do deserve your friends and family. Not necessarily because of what you do (or did), but because of what you are.

The MRA stuff is both sad and funny. I can’t see why they do that.
I had thought there would be Christian people telling you that you deserved your accident because of your “immoral lifestyle” ;-) and BS like that.

Best wishes for your life and your neck.
Hey, your neck has to support such an important payload! :-D

]]> Comment on [storytime] The Tale of My Broken Neck by Sam http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2012/02/18/storytime-the-tale-of-my-broken-neck/#comment-106066 Sam Sun, 19 Feb 2012 18:56:26 +0000 http://clarissethorn.com/blog/?p=2695#comment-106066 Hey Clarisse, thanks for the touching account - glad you're starting to feel ok again :) And "have I told you how I idolize your ridiculous lifestyle?" Well, some parts, at least ;) As for the MRA thing - it eludes me how somone would even be capable of making fun of you after reading this story. It's beyond absurd. Hey Clarisse,

thanks for the touching account – glad you’re starting to feel ok again :) And “have I told you how I idolize your ridiculous lifestyle?” Well, some parts, at least ;)

As for the MRA thing – it eludes me how somone would even be capable of making fun of you after reading this story. It’s beyond absurd.

]]> Comment on [storytime] The Tale of My Broken Neck by CharlieGoodnight http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2012/02/18/storytime-the-tale-of-my-broken-neck/#comment-106043 CharlieGoodnight Sun, 19 Feb 2012 16:02:36 +0000 http://clarissethorn.com/blog/?p=2695#comment-106043 Hi Clarisse, Not to be too presumptuous (I hope), but you DO deserve the love of your friends, your community, and your family. You're a strong, amazing woman whose work means a lot to a lot of people, myself and a couple women I love included. So don't talk about yourself like that! You deserve your parents, you deserve your friends, you deserve happiness and love and joy and dreams realized and all that good stuff man. OK, sorry if that was a bit much! Thanks for another generous and wonderful post. Xo, S Hi Clarisse,

Not to be too presumptuous (I hope), but you DO deserve the love of your friends, your community, and your family. You’re a strong, amazing woman whose work means a lot to a lot of people, myself and a couple women I love included. So don’t talk about yourself like that! You deserve your parents, you deserve your friends, you deserve happiness and love and joy and dreams realized and all that good stuff man.

OK, sorry if that was a bit much! Thanks for another generous and wonderful post. Xo,

S

]]> Comment on [storytime] The Tale of My Broken Neck by J.W. http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2012/02/18/storytime-the-tale-of-my-broken-neck/#comment-106029 J.W. Sun, 19 Feb 2012 13:57:27 +0000 http://clarissethorn.com/blog/?p=2695#comment-106029 <em>"The screws in my head required daily cleaning, with which my intrepid friends and parents sometimes assisted me despite the fact that it was completely appalling."</em> Oh man. This reminds me so much of the aftermath of my surgery a couple of years ago, when I had an abcess on my tailbone that needed to be cut out. (Because I am an idiot with stupidly high pain tolerance, I let it go for weeks before seeing a doctor.) Afterwards, they can't sew up the wound because it greatly increases the chance of a relapse. Twice a day for about six months, my partner had to help me rinse out an open wound and put medicated gel and fresh gauze in it. It was, as you say, a completely appalling task. “The screws in my head required daily cleaning, with which my intrepid friends and parents sometimes assisted me despite the fact that it was completely appalling.”

Oh man. This reminds me so much of the aftermath of my surgery a couple of years ago, when I had an abcess on my tailbone that needed to be cut out. (Because I am an idiot with stupidly high pain tolerance, I let it go for weeks before seeing a doctor.) Afterwards, they can’t sew up the wound because it greatly increases the chance of a relapse. Twice a day for about six months, my partner had to help me rinse out an open wound and put medicated gel and fresh gauze in it. It was, as you say, a completely appalling task.

]]> Comment on [storytime] The Tale of My Broken Neck by Hunter http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2012/02/18/storytime-the-tale-of-my-broken-neck/#comment-105985 Hunter Sun, 19 Feb 2012 07:21:18 +0000 http://clarissethorn.com/blog/?p=2695#comment-105985 Clarisse, Having survived a car accident that fractured my C2 vertebra (the Hangman's Break!), I spent four months in a SOMI brace. I didn't need a HALO. That first night in the hospital...dang. It was an older military hospital in Kentucky and while I lay flat on my back, unable to move, I was rewarded with cockroaches running over me. I promised that doctor anything under the sun to get me out of there. Now, thirty years later, I am finding that neck to be getting stiffer and stiffer with each passing year. Prayers to you, listen to the docs and therapists. Clarisse,
Having survived a car accident that fractured my C2 vertebra (the Hangman’s Break!), I spent four months in a SOMI brace. I didn’t need a HALO. That first night in the hospital…dang. It was an older military hospital in Kentucky and while I lay flat on my back, unable to move, I was rewarded with cockroaches running over me. I promised that doctor anything under the sun to get me out of there.
Now, thirty years later, I am finding that neck to be getting stiffer and stiffer with each passing year.
Prayers to you, listen to the docs and therapists.

]]> Comment on [storytime] The Tale of My Broken Neck by Infra http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2012/02/18/storytime-the-tale-of-my-broken-neck/#comment-105982 Infra Sun, 19 Feb 2012 06:49:54 +0000 http://clarissethorn.com/blog/?p=2695#comment-105982 Some of those moments.... The familiarity of some of those moments. Good to hear that your recovery went the majority for the best, though, and that you're coping with it well. (As for the MRAs... I'm not going to let your blog be responsible for publishing what I'd write in response to that.) But there's one thing that I'd like to highlight: you mentioned odd smells. Have you discussed those with the neurologist(s)? I'd recommend keeping a record of those, and of any sensations that occur along with, before or after them. Doesn't necessarily mean that there's a problem, but it might be worth noting, especially if the smells are unpleasant. Follow up with me through e-mail if you don't want to discuss it in-thread. Some of those moments…. The familiarity of some of those moments.

Good to hear that your recovery went the majority for the best, though, and that you’re coping with it well. (As for the MRAs… I’m not going to let your blog be responsible for publishing what I’d write in response to that.)

But there’s one thing that I’d like to highlight: you mentioned odd smells. Have you discussed those with the neurologist(s)? I’d recommend keeping a record of those, and of any sensations that occur along with, before or after them. Doesn’t necessarily mean that there’s a problem, but it might be worth noting, especially if the smells are unpleasant.

Follow up with me through e-mail if you don’t want to discuss it in-thread.

]]> Comment on [storytime] The Tale of My Broken Neck by Clarisse http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2012/02/18/storytime-the-tale-of-my-broken-neck/#comment-105957 Clarisse Sun, 19 Feb 2012 03:56:42 +0000 http://clarissethorn.com/blog/?p=2695#comment-105957 Update! Some MRAs have picked this up and are making fun of me for it. I can't decide if that's terrible or hilarious. I guess that means it's both. Update! Some MRAs have picked this up and are making fun of me for it. I can’t decide if that’s terrible or hilarious. I guess that means it’s both.

]]> Comment on [storytime] The Tale of My Broken Neck by Clarence http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2012/02/18/storytime-the-tale-of-my-broken-neck/#comment-105938 Clarence Sun, 19 Feb 2012 01:17:15 +0000 http://clarissethorn.com/blog/?p=2695#comment-105938 All I can say is that I'm glad your story apparently has a mostly happy ending. All I can say is that I’m glad your story apparently has a mostly happy ending.

]]> Comment on [storytime] The Tale of My Broken Neck by SnowdropExplodes http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2012/02/18/storytime-the-tale-of-my-broken-neck/#comment-105937 SnowdropExplodes Sun, 19 Feb 2012 01:07:13 +0000 http://clarissethorn.com/blog/?p=2695#comment-105937 I'm very glad you're doing okay. Bummer about needing the surgery anyway, but it's better than most of the alternatives, I guess. The physical therapy does sound so much like SM - I think I should have chosen that as my career path! I’m very glad you’re doing okay.

Bummer about needing the surgery anyway, but it’s better than most of the alternatives, I guess.

The physical therapy does sound so much like SM – I think I should have chosen that as my career path!

]]> Comment on [storytime] The Tale of My Broken Neck by Lucille Hunter http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2012/02/18/storytime-the-tale-of-my-broken-neck/#comment-105935 Lucille Hunter Sun, 19 Feb 2012 00:53:57 +0000 http://clarissethorn.com/blog/?p=2695#comment-105935 You wouldn't think a story such as this would make me smile so much, but it did. Not in a bad way, it was just funny as well as touching. I wish you luck with the rest of your recovery, and I'm glad you're doing better. You wouldn’t think a story such as this would make me smile so much, but it did. Not in a bad way, it was just funny as well as touching. I wish you luck with the rest of your recovery, and I’m glad you’re doing better.

]]> Comment on Submissive Skills by Consent Frustration – What to do when you’re consenting? « There Is No Fear In Love http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2012/01/16/submissive-skills/#comment-104918 Consent Frustration – What to do when you’re consenting? « There Is No Fear In Love Tue, 14 Feb 2012 17:03:28 +0000 http://clarissethorn.com/blog/?p=2598#comment-104918 [...] recently read and loved the article “Submissive Skills” by Clarisse Thorn.  I often find her writing about negotiating consent in BDSM relationships excellent and [...] [...] recently read and loved the article “Submissive Skills” by Clarisse Thorn.  I often find her writing about negotiating consent in BDSM relationships excellent and [...]

]]> Comment on [storytime] The Strange Binary of Dominance and Submission by machina http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2012/02/10/storytime-the-strange-binary-of-dominance-and-submission/#comment-104472 machina Sun, 12 Feb 2012 22:57:35 +0000 http://clarissethorn.com/blog/?p=2670#comment-104472 This is one reason why I prefer verbs and adjectives over nouns when talking about sex. It works better for me to say "I like doing this" or "This feels really good" than to say "I am this." This is one reason why I prefer verbs and adjectives over nouns when talking about sex. It works better for me to say “I like doing this” or “This feels really good” than to say “I am this.”

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