I like to think about sexuality and subcultures. My favorite topics include BDSM, masculinity, and communication.

My best-known book is (on the surface) an investigation of a subculture of guys who strategize about manipulating women (but really it's about love, sex, gender, and ethics).

My other best-known book is called The S&M Feminist.

I've also written about rape in virtual worlds, and I really love the Southeast Asian legend The Ramayana.

I give great lectures on my favorite topics. I've spoken at a huge variety of places — academic institutions like the University of Chicago; new media conventions like South By Southwest; museums like the Museum of Sex; and lots of others.

I established myself by creating this blog. I don't update the blog much anymore, but you can still read my archives. My best writing is available in my books, anyway.

I've lived in Swaziland, Greece, Chicago, and a lot of other places. I've worked in game design, public health, and bookstores. Now I live in San Francisco, and I make my living in social media marketing.